just us mamas (aka bra shopping)

I think most of you are mamas.

And I know most of you are women. 

So, since it's just us girls… can we talk about some lady stuff? Bra shopping, in particular. I *l-o-a-t-h-e* it. Capital "H" Hate it. I haven't been bra shopping since I was still nursing a baby, and that was over six years ago. Last week Joe and I were folding laundry and he looked at my bra in the pile and said "seriously?" It's that bad. I have two. One black & one nude. Yeah, yeah….. Mrs. Practical, I know. One is missing a clip and the other has shot elastic and the fabric has holes in it where the cotton covers the foam cups. I told you it was bad. It's been so long since I bought a bra that they no longer make the one I know fits. Or at least they have changed the name. They do this to be evil, I'm sure of it. This leaves me with two choices:

a. go to the store & try on bras 

b. order two sizes of at least 6 different styles to find a new bra I like

Choice a involves a solo trip out. (What is this? Out of the house by myself?) Or a trip trying to get two kids to behave and be quiet in the bra section. The BRA section. I don't think "seven year old boy" and "bra section" will work out well. He's not the kind of kid that would be embarrassed…. he's more like the kid that would be pointing at the really large bras and trying them on like a hat. He'd be kind enough to wait until I was in the stall trying on my own tiny version of the one he would put on his head. The store clerk would not appreciate his shenanigans. Neither would his sister, though she'd likely encourage his antics. Next he'd surely find some underwear in an interesting shape and ask me (in all honesty & partial confusion) where the rest of them were. I know, I tried to buy a bra once when he was six. I gave up and went home.

Choice b is most likely to work but certainly going to cause some frustration. Extra shipping charges. (blah, blah, blah……)

I want a choice c. It involves a secret bra fairy that does my shopping for me. They know I need a little uhm… fluffing after nursing (ahem) four little ones. They know I don't like lace or anything bumpy that will show under a fitted tshirt. No underwires. No fancy clips. No patterns. They'll find the bra that says "b" instead of "a" to make me feel more like a grown up. They will deliver the practical & perfectly fitting bras to my nightstand while I sleep. Preferably with some dark chocolate on the side. 

I'll send her to your house next, okay?

Just in case this fairy doesn't show up…… maybe you could tell me where your favorite one comes from. Extra points if it does not include that store in the mall with the airbrushed "women". You know, the one that sends you 14 catalogs a year after you order one pair of pajamas. Each of which you try to recycle before your seven year old says "woah, mom got more mail about naked stuff!"

{head in hand} *sigh*

Thanks ladies.

xo,

s

ps ~ I'm sure you understand why today's post is picture free.

ps again ~ I do get out alone sometimes. I just don't go bra shopping. I go to bee school. Or have a coffee and listen to the quiet. Who wants to bra shop in those precious moments of alone time? Not me…. 

 

89 thoughts on “just us mamas (aka bra shopping)

  1. Best of luck clothes shopping. It takes so long to figure how to clothe your body post-baby. I remember after my second baby, none of my shirts fit. My new nursing body (ahem) made them all too short. It was so funny. And the last thing I needed at that time (or ever, really) was my midriff exposed!

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  2. Oh my goodness! This made me lough so loud! I would do the same thing….. wear them anyway just because I’d spent the money! *sigh* is right…… I guess this is one reason to adventure out to the store….

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  3. I remember once seeing my great grandma’s bra….. it was like this crazy pointy double layered contraption. I could never imagine how that thing could be comfortable! Bravado was my favorite nursing bra too. And shelf boob!!! Haha! That is why I like this bra when I was nursing too….. I remember poking that empty space (middle of the shelf) thinking, what is this? Oh, so funny. Thanks for chiming in….. this has been so much fun!

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  4. Thank you Thea. I always figured a fitting was a waste of time since I don’t have to…. uhm…. measure. Headed to read more about proper bra fit now while I sip my coffee πŸ™‚ I am making a date with my teenage daughter for next weekend. Girls trip!

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  5. Don’t even get me started on bathing suits!!! I just wear a tankini top and board shorts. End of story. I gave up on bathing suits years ago. I’m not even a very big person, but this body and spandex don’t get along well! lol~~

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  6. Oh Maureeen! Thank you. I love you all too. This has been such a hilarious conversation….. and sisterhood! Yes to that! I really do need to go into a store and be fitted so that I at least love the thing I’m about to throw down some hard earned cash for. Totally giggling over your husbands response! xo~

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  7. Zip it lady. Haha! I *still* haven’t gone. It’s so sad. I have a similar odd size. The kind where they look at you and wonder why you want a bra. I don’t want to explain that….. I just want them to find one that fits me!!

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  8. Oh you ladies! Everyone is really encouraging me to brave this fitting thing…… it is good to have something fit well that you wear everyday. So true! Thanks for the help πŸ™‚

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  9. “Now I’m fancy” ~~~ I love that! Totally going to check out those Anenome bras. I have the same issue….. deflated junior section. lol. I’m hoping to make it out for the adventure next weekend….. maybe bring the big girl along and make a fun date of it. Well, at least as fun as it can be!

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  10. These might work…… I’ll have to take a peek at them. Totally a cotton girl here too. It just feels nicer on. Thanks for offering some help, I surely need every bit I can get!
    xo~

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  11. I really did not expect to get so many hilarious and heartfelt comments on this post! Sympathy & sisterhood indeed πŸ™‚ I will look into title9 because I adore their catalog….. I just might brave the department store though! I’m starting to consider it…… xo~

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  12. Amy that is such a good idea! If I brave it out, I’ll keep that in mind. I think I’d be happier with a fitting….. even though I really don’t love the idea. It probably needs to be done πŸ™‚

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  13. A tangental note: my reader sucks and so I catch wind of these posts after the fact. I’ve begun teaching a class about breast health along side two wonderful practitioners, it’s been an amazingly healing experience and while I can’t speak for all the women who have attended, I can say that many of us have felt our femininity deeply nourished by spending 1.5 hours talking about breast health. I’ve written a couple blog posts on the topic and have some more content for another one that I’ll put up after our next couple that are coming up within the next few weeks. We’ve held the workshop twice now and I’m amazed at what new information arises each time, breast health and care is actually a really big and important topic for women. My personal favorite bras are the organic cotton comfort bra from here: http://www.majamas.com. Looks like you can buy them online. They give me a nice shape without the underwire. I’m not sure how widespread the idea that there is a connection between underwires and breast cancer is, but when I learned of the possibility, I didn’t have a lot of trouble giving up on the wires. Nordstrom has a really wonderful bra fitting service that helps to make sure that you are in the best bra for your body and makes sure that the underwire risk is minimized since it rests on your ribs rather than on your breast tissue. I realize that a trip bra shopping isn’t the most fun, but their staff really makes it fabulous. When I was a teenager I worked in the lingerie department of Hudson’s, boy did that give me a lot of laughs! I’ve got a few fun stories for life thanks all the funny business that goes on amongst the intimates! Here’s to new bras and some TLC for the sisters!

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  14. I went to this place once: http://www.ruthsofri.com/ with my friend after she was done with nursing and needed to a new bra. Lots of the options were pricey but they had every combination of cup size and band size, and since it’s all they sell, they took the fit pretty seriously….I think this might be close-ish to you??

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  15. Bra shopping is awful. I have changed sizes so many times because of pregnancy and breastfeeding that it has been really hard to get the right size bra (not to mention a nursing bra). But, I recently found an on-line bra shopping experience that I loved. I measured myself to make sure I had a the right size (chest measurement for number and from base to nipple for the letter). I loved the bra, it fit perfectly, and makes my girls look good (which is hard to do after nursing 4 babes), and its pretty. http://bounce.titlenine.com/
    You might find a free shipping coupon code if you google.

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  16. Thanks for the note! I've actually made a list of all the suggestions so if I do make it the mall I'll at least have a plan! And yes, I wore the wrong size bra for years for the very reason you suggested. I guess it doesn't help that my body has changed shape so many times over the past 15 years! lol

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  17. Mine are down to nothing for sure….. it's going to have to happen sooner than later. I think no matter the cup size, it's just rough to find something that works. I think it's worse than buying jeans! lol (So glad your little man was sweet on your trip!)

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  18. It takes far too much effort to get a new one. It's so hard!! I have to do it though before I have nothing to wear at all…… it's almost that bad. So glad reading all these comments & seeing that we're all pretty much in the same boat. If that fairy ever shoes up I'll be sure to give her a "to visit" list with your name on it πŸ™‚

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  19. Hi! I agree. Bra shopping is the worst, except maybe for swimsuit shopping. Any way, I never had much luck finding a bra that fit well and was comfortable until I went to Nordstrom’s. They do such a great job of fitting and finding just the right style for your body type. Good luck with your bra shopping!

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  20. Check out Coobie bras. They are one size fits most (up to 36D), so no need to order multiple sizes. So comfortable. I got 2 about 6 months ago and haven’t touched any of my other bras since. Seamless with no underwire, and just enough padding where needed. Really affordable too.

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  21. So crazy. I do need to get fitted, I think. Even though I just don't love the idea…… hoping to go shopping by the end of the month!! And I want a balconette because of the way it sounds….. what a fun word to say πŸ™‚

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  22. Thank you for all that incredible information! Wow. I'm looking into the bras you suggested….. I had some of their "easy bras" when I was nursing & loved them! I did know underwires were an area of concern. I ditched them long ago, which was easy for me because I don't need the extra support anyway. Thanks for chiming in πŸ™‚

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  23. I'm just now finishing up replying to all these amazing comments! I'll send the fairy your way for sure. Of course, there is a *lot* of great info within the comments of this post too!

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  24. This seems like my kind of place! Small business πŸ™‚ I know it will be more expensive….. but I'm pretty much a two bra girl so hopefully it won't be too bad! Thanks Shelly πŸ™‚

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  25. Oh and I just saw that they are having one of their save $20 on 3 sale. Which means only ~$40 for 3 bras. Can’t beat that! Their slogan is The Most Comfortable Bra Ever….and I really think it is. Good luck with your bra search.

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