yes

I've been busy. Off balanced. 

It seems like when things shift in this direction everything gets louder. Dinner happens too late. The house is messier. The bills seem higher. The dog is barking & and the kids fight more. Sometimes I feel all of it piling up and I feel pretty overwhelmed.

On one hand, I can look around and see that I am so blessed to have this beautiful life all around me. And truly, I know I am. On the other hand, when things feel like I'm sinking or always swimming upstream…. sometimes I get tired. Parenting is an intense job. It's always there and always on. 24/7. I'll be the first to say there is nothing I would rather do, but this doesn't change the job description. This doesn't change the emotional pull every day as you walk along this journey. Trying to be mindful. Grateful. Present. It takes work. Sometimes I'm good at it, and sometimes I suck. This is the truth.

In the midst of the worst day ever…. I try to find something good. Smiling kids. A wholesome dinner (even if it's 8 pm when it's served). Laughter. On the worst day ever this house still has love and happines and creativity.

This last week my youngest came to me with an apron on, and asked if he could make a snack. All by himself. I said yes. He led me to the kitchen where he had everything prepared.

Peanut butter, nutella, maple sugar & honey all sat on the island. As you might have guessed, this is not normal snack fare around here. I usually would have said no. I would have told him he could have the peanut butter & one sweet treat to go with it. But I didn't. All I said was, "just a little of each, okay buddy?" 


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He got to work. Making this snack. He felt empowered. I felt my spirits lift. He ate it up and told me it was the best snack ever

Yes is a powerful thing sometimes….

 

Happy weekending friends.

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21 thoughts on “yes

  1. Empowerment is good! When he is 16 he will probably be baking bagels and when you ask, “how do you know they are done, you didn’t set a timer?” And he will answer, “You just KNOW Mom!” And you will believe him!

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  2. Yes indeed! It’s such a challenge to let them be when they start with this independence thing…my four year old has started getting her own cereal, pouring her own milk, and putting nut butter on crackers. There are often spills and always messes…but “yes” empowers her, and how else can she learn?
    Ah, wise mama that you are!

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  3. Great job! I’ve started letting Abby help me with stirring and pouring things while I’m in the kitchen. At just 2 years old she feels so accomplished, empowered and like such a big girl to simply dump water in a bowl. The smile on her face and the scream of, “I DID IT!!!” makes my Aunite heart break every time. Anyhow, I can only imagine Sir Luke and how excited he was about making his very own snack. They grow up so fast!

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  4. I’d love to have that snack! Thanks for the recipe, Luke! ;P
    It must be that time of the year…Noah has started to invite himself into the kitchen to stir or roll or whatever with me. It’s tough because it can be so slow…but maybe that’s why he’s suddenly trying more foods lately? One must have hope!

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  5. This is something that I have been thinking about lately. I want to be able to have an entire day of just saying Yes to my kids. I think that I am going to do this.

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  6. I found your blog through the Whole Food Kitchen workshop. I loved this post. I know just what you mean. Parenting is hard work! And it just seems to get harder now that I have an almost 14 yo. You have a lovely blog.

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  7. It felt like the only good moment of an otherwise crappy day. But at the end of it…. I was glad I snapped these pictures and was able to remind myself it wasn't all bad. In fact there was a lot of good in it 😉

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  8. haha! they could almost be no-bake cookies! and yes!!! anything to get them to open up their palate a bit. I think that helped a ton with my own Soph who was {ahem} a very (VERY!!) picky eater as a little person. those were fun days. (that was sarcasm…. lol)

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  9. You have just described many of my very recent days, both in tiredness and in response. I was telling my husband that we have had some Yes Days around here and that I think it is time to shift back to a balance again. I notice Yes Days are good…until there is too much of a good thing and they turn into I Want Moooorrrreeee Days from the kids. LOL

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  10. Such a great post!!!! Sometimes I feel as if I parent according to other families rules/lifestyle/etc. and things seem to only go south. But, when I parent from the place in my heart that feels right for us at that moment it works and the balance is restored.

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  11. I totally agree….. when we're authentic to our true selves…. it's like having the golden ticket. It's just the thing that keeps everything together in a natural, beautiful way. Of course I forget this ALL the time! Luckily my kids remind me in their own little way.

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